To establish your highest possible self in the act of doing excellent, you have to be willing to do something fairly tough: let go of the acceptance/endorsement of the community. But here is the excellent news: When you let go of the acceptance, you furthermore let go of the critique.Because we do not need to retract to gurus who sit perfectly on the side lines, who observe others take risks (and, yes, develop blunders/flaws) in the desire of excellence. What a sad finishing it would be for our goals of doing excellent if we were beaten not by causes of evil, but by these desk chair gurus.
I move instead to the terms of Teddy Roosevelt, in his talk named “Citizenship In A Republic” presented in Paris:It is not the critic who counts … The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again … but who does actually strive to do the deeds … If he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Does your heart not repeat these words? Does something within of you not want to take a position up and say, yes! I would rather endure both the sweetness of triumph and the bitterness of defeat, if I at least can know what it’s like to be truly alive!How much steadier might we be if we valued the beneficial reviews of our real buddies who risk together with us, but rejected to sketch our value from unfamiliar individual gurus and specialists as well on the side lines?
It might be a chance to put these problems away—and get back to the field, to what really matters.
- The Man in the Arena: Citizenship in a Republic (roymackay.wordpress.com)