The Blame Game: Why point to another.

YouWhy Blame Another?

Life is full of surprises. Occasionally, we encounter experiences that are an extreme opposite of our expectations. It’s often exciting to take the credit when the experience is a positive one. Unfortunately, the moment an outcome of either our actions or inactions turn out to be negative, we begin to put the blame on any other person that has shown some signs of negligence or has flouted protocol. How often have we put in so much effort into a task, observing all the precautions and even going the extra-mile, without meeting the anticipated expectation? That could have happened a number of times. But why is it that whenever we encounter amazing results, we begin to attribute it to our own special contributions? Nobody ever wants to take the blame when things don’t go as expected, but everyone would like to enjoy the glory of a job welldone. Negligence permits deterioration and allows infilteration. Anything can slip past our radar, if we don’t have everything properly monitored and controlled. When one end of a system is loose, the entire system is at risk of collapse or failure. Our emotions are often hinged to certain results, which are equally linked to certain operations in our lives. If we permit such operations to crash, our results and emotions would equally go down with them. Blame is one major demotivator. There are times when things fall apart as a result of a weaklink in the chain, but blaming that weaklink cannot gather the separated pieces together. Teamwork entails working together and watching the backs of one another. When we focus on doing our part well, and being a source of inspiration and motivation to other members of our team, productivity automatically increases. Sometimes, the unexpected, amazing and positive outcomes we experience, are as a result of the seemingly negligible input of someone around us. In the same way, some misfortune or accident, may find expression through someone around. If we always watch the backs of those around us, and move through vital processes with both patience and love, we would naturally inspire and motivate. We would leave joyful landmarks in the memories of those that work around us. When our systems are configured to motivate us, and our emotions are groomed to both accomodate and inspire others, our accomplishments will be truly phenomenal. I wonder what psychological relief blame gives. I wonder what solution blame can offer. I truly wonder what positive contribution “blame” has, in bringing success to a collapsing situation. Blame is only an escape strategy to avoid moving ahead. Why choose blame, when there is still time to make a change? Why accept defeat, when there is a chance to conquer? We often blame our colleagues for experimenting. Have you not noticed that new comes from doing things differently? The fact that an idea went bad doesn’t mean that the person who suggested it is no good. Innovation and genius are bi-products of creativity. Awesome things may not appear awesome at the onset. Refine, rather than blame. Encourage creativity, rather than discourage it. Be creative, but be responsible too. Creativity may produce phenomenal results at some point, but working outside of already established rules could occasionally turn out bad. There is no better way to improve, than to dare to share in the ups and downs of teamwork. Two heads, they say; are better than one. If you can take the glory when things go fine, why not share the blame if the need arises? You have what it takes to be excellent, you can take all the appropriate precautionery measures, you can even surpass the expectations of everyone, but if you can’t give room for others to grow and improve, you still have a long way to go. I am still of the opinion that collaboration is superior to competition. If blame would only pile up the mistakes of a person, without providing a solution that will move the project foward, then what’s the point applying blame? Blame steals away the joy of teamwork. Measures should definitely be put in place to curb carelessness and neglect, but in my opinion, blame doesn’t seem to be the right way out. Drills and exercises are programs that help people master processes. They are not designed to blame, but to provide activities for practice, that would enhance performance. What kind of work environment do you create? What effect does your presence create during team play? Do you blame all the way or do you contribute positively to encourage productivity? Quit the blame game and reach out for more success. You can do it! You can choose to be responsible for the critical aspects of your life or projects that can affect your emotions and productivity. Be sure to delegate only to reliable hands, if you don’t want to experiment with your outcome. Have monitoring measures to ensure that nothing important slips undiscovered. Just be responsible for yourself and for one another, if you are working as a team. Responsibility is the right substitute for blame. Blame shouldn’t be given much attention because it does not have much to offer. Why cry over spilt milk? Will crying bring it back? Why blame someone else when you can move ahead? teecee.

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